witchy wrote: This will probably get me flamed, but I am going to say it anyway.
Ramona died 4 months ago. The love of his life. His soul mate.
Suddenly he meets a girl 40 years younger than him on the internet, not wrong, travels to meet her, not wrong. Marries her?
Feels wrong.
Then to leave Pahrump? KYNE? And giving the kitties away?
And leaving the country. Coast to Coast during the day from the Phillipines. Not the High Desert now is it?
It seems like men have a harder time than women, being on their own if their partner dies first. I'm not talking about grieving. I mean that the prospect of having to take care of them-selves (cooking, laundry, shopping, etc.) is something they feel totally incapable of. Either they have NEVER done it or it has been so long ago, they really can't remember much about it. Art even mentioned it a few times. But I was still totally shocked. His relationship with Ramona was so special and seemed way above what most people have.
What is even more shocking to me, is that he's leaving EVERYTHING behind... the desert area, his home, his cats, the list is endless. Coincidentally, I just finished re-reading "The Art of Talk". So alot about Art & his life was refreshed in my mind; like his love of the dersert, his need for privacy and quiet which living in the desert provides, the fact that he felt his ability to do the show as good as he does, would not be possible if he had to live in the city.
Then there's the years of hearing so many stories about his kitties. The book even devotes a chapter on Shadow coming into his life - and his other cats are in there, too. I never would have thought a time would come when Art would go a day without his cats, no matter what. On his first show after Ramona died, he said that at one point, his cats were what kept him from suicide. They were there at the lowest time in his whole life. How can he give them up? They won't understand... first Ramona and now Art. Plus the only home they've ever known. There's no way to explain any of it to them.
I'm going on about the cats so much, because I'm trying to deal with the death of a loved one (which happened 2 mos. before Ramona's died). My situation is VERY similar to Art's, only for different reasons. Mainly its the HORRIBLE lonliness - its like nothing I've ever experienced before. I have no family or children and if it wasn't for Maggie May (my cat), I know it would overwhelm me completely. There is no way I would ever give her up, for ANY reason. If whatever I was planning didn't include her, then it wouldn't be the right thing to do.
I've said MUCH MORE than I had planned to. So it might be me that ends up getting flamed. I'll take that chance. Like Art said, its his life! And if he's truely happy, which I have to admit I heard clearly in his voice during the show, well that's good enough for me!
Tinkerbell