Life Lessons: Getting Over It
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Life Lessons: Getting Over It
"Why do we continue to focus on things from the past? The answer is because we haven’t learnt the lessons that we were supposed to learn"
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I suppose that if some cleansing at the personal level were to catch on the greater sins of humanity would diminish in their repetition.
Freedom, aside from not being free, is rather scary. Like that allegorical day so long ago when we realized that we were naked and went frantically looking for fig leaves.
But who would I be without my grudges?
Freedom, aside from not being free, is rather scary. Like that allegorical day so long ago when we realized that we were naked and went frantically looking for fig leaves.
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But who would I be without my grudges?
I think people mix up “not holding grudges” with some sort of obligation to have the person who hurt them back in their lives as though nothing’s happened, which would make one open to more hurt. But that’s not the case. If you tell the person who broke your trust that you’re on to them and that’s not going to happen again, what more do you have to do? No one’s saying to not protect yourself, but holding a grudge doesn’t protect you, it just keeps you angry.
I’m totally guilty of holding grudges against those people who hurt me, and when confronted, not only didn’t show remorse or apologize, but either denied that it happened or that I deserved what happened to me. It took a long time to get over the hurt of those things, but I did when I slowly realized that continuing to feel hurt allowed these people to have power over me. I still have moments when the hurt comes up, but now I remember this and it’s easier to let the feeling pass.
And while I don’t hold a grudge, no, those particular people are no longer in my life. They have proven that their ways of treating people haven’t changed. I’m learning to forgive. Not to be stupid.
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But who would I be without my grudges?
I think people mix up “not holding grudges” with some sort of obligation to have the person who hurt them back in their lives as though nothing’s happened, which would make one open to more hurt. But that’s not the case. If you tell the person who broke your trust that you’re on to them and that’s not going to happen again, what more do you have to do? No one’s saying to not protect yourself, but holding a grudge doesn’t protect you, it just keeps you angry.
I’m totally guilty of holding grudges against those people who hurt me, and when confronted, not only didn’t show remorse or apologize, but either denied that it happened or that I deserved what happened to me. It took a long time to get over the hurt of those things, but I did when I slowly realized that continuing to feel hurt allowed these people to have power over me. I still have moments when the hurt comes up, but now I remember this and it’s easier to let the feeling pass.
And while I don’t hold a grudge, no, those particular people are no longer in my life. They have proven that their ways of treating people haven’t changed. I’m learning to forgive. Not to be stupid.
Due to current economic conditions the light at the end of the tunnel has been turned off.
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I don't miss the past anymore, the now is all there is. there is no garantee that any one of us will live another day. This is something most people forget and miss the most precious part of life - Now.
I don't hold grudges anymore either. It isn't healthy. The past is the past, there is no possible way to un-do it. There is only acceptance.
I don't hold grudges anymore either. It isn't healthy. The past is the past, there is no possible way to un-do it. There is only acceptance.
Any fool can make a rule, and any fool will mind it.
Henry David Thoreau
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Lastmartian wrote: I suppose that if some cleansing at the personal level were to catch on the greater sins of humanity would diminish in their repetition.
Freedom, aside from not being free, is rather scary. Like that allegorical day so long ago when we realized that we were naked and went frantically looking for fig leaves.
I tried a fig leaf, but my butt was too big. I found 2 palm fronds worked quite well.
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